One of my all-time favourite quotes is from one of my favourite all-time comedians… you guessed it DYLAN MORAN! He says Cake is the language of love. I can’t totally agree or disagree with him but if he had said the KFC’s zinger wings were the language of love then obviously I would be all over that.
But there is a certain benefit that comes from knowing what your love language is, what makes your love-meter tick. What makes you feel loved even though the person gave you a half-eaten apple pie with sour cream. What do YOU do to make other people feel loved? To show people that you love them? It’s very good to know, I think it helps with a lot of communication problems.
There is a very good book (I assume – I haven’t read it yet) called The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. I have done some classes and in these classes the lecturer talks about this book and discusses the love languages. Also, I have spoken to numerous people who have read the book.
So according to Mr Chapman (and his research) there are 5 love languages namely:
- Words of Affirmation
- Acts of Service
- Quality Time
And then he has a test that you could do which would tell you which of these you are more fluent in. Go do the quiz HERE. My ULTIMATE love language is touch! Not the creepy kind of touch, just a shoulder touch or something. Oh and HUGGSSS!!! Thats all I need! Hugging is like my recharge plug point! My dad and my 2 brothers are the best huggers (maybe because I feel safe with them and I don’t have to worry about sending weird signals – ya know what i’m sayin’? or its because they are all taller than me so its like bear hugs – tall girl problems!) I can feel when I haven’t had a proper hug in a while, my hug-o-meter goes waaaayyyyy down – I start feeling drained. Then once I have had a hug (depending on the length) I’m more than fine. It is like someone pushed a button.
In the last year or two I have become more of a gift person also. It is by no means as strong as touch (NOTHING IS!!!) but I feel uber special when someone has taken time in finding something that reminded them of me, or thought I’d appreciate. Even if I don’t like it at all I feel special that the person thought of me! Second strongest QUALITY TIME. People!! Loads of people!* Sometime these people don’t even need to speak, just sit there and let me love you! And I don’t need words of affirmation… I know I am AWESOME!! Really! I’m not even joking!! And the acts of service thing… meh, I can do things myself! (That doesn’t mean don’t do things that you should anyways)
*People that I love/enjoy spending time with!
Have you taken the quiz? (DO IT!) What do you think about the results? Do you feel like it makes sense! Did it clarify some things?